Why You May Not Be Getting What You Want

If the Law of Attraction works, then why aren’t you getting what you want? Many people who have tried to use the law are still unhappy with their finances, job, health, and relationships. So far, they’ve been unable to figure out how to use attraction forces to live the life of their dreams.

The foundation of the Law of Attraction is that the law is always in effect, whether we are aware of it or not. But to use it to our advantage, we need to understand it’s nature and align our awareness with its resources. If we refuse to get onto the Path of Attraction and we ignore the guides and opportunities available to us, then there is little the law can do except continue to give us the old way of living. That is the nature of the Law of Attraction. It does not work your way, it works its way.

If you’re skeptical about whether or not the Law of Attraction works, then you can believe in my belief that it works. But you must be willing to step onto a path that is different from the one you’ve been on until now. Staying on your current path hasn’t worked, or has worked only somewhat. The Law has continued to keep giving you what you have, and nothing more.

Let’s unpack the reasons  why most people do not get what they want in life.

Your Inner World Reality is the Transmitter

Your beliefs, attitudes, and thoughts are all part of you “inner” world. When your inner world is at peace, you feel at peace. When your inner world in in harmony, you see harmony all around you, and you cooperate with the outer world.  Things just seem to work for you. You feel lucky. This attitude and thinking radiates from you, like a transmitter.

By contrast, if your inner world is conflicted and is dominated by depression, fear, frustration, confusion, doubt, anger, or guilt, your life can feel like a continuous struggle, and you will transmit this into your outer world. It may seem like nothing is working or going well for you. You may experience defeat, limitation, or lose faith in yourself. You will not see opportunities and you may feel limited in what is possible for you.

For example, most confident loving people radiate love, and are attracted to other loving people. They tend to either avoid angry and conflicted people, or simply don’t end up in the same social groups.

So how can you change your inner world? Although you can’t always change the events that happen around you, you can always adjust the meaning you give to events and circumstances, and adjust your attitude and reactions.

This is how you change your inner world. Then your inner ability to think differently is limitless.  The Law of Attraction will match your state. It acts as the receiver to what you’re transmitting. It is giving you what you’re thinking and reflecting at all times.  

The Failure Loop

We all have “failures” and disappointments. But emotionally healthy people brush them off and try again. Some people who may have low self-esteem or who believe that they themselves are a failure can view circumstantial failures as proof of their limits.  They dwell on the failures, and then work strategically to avoid potential future failures, rather than striving for success.

Since the Law of Attraction reflects our inner world, those folks either experience more failures, or simply do not see new opportunities for success.  Unconsciously these folks expect to be defeated, and it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy for them. As a result, they get caught in a never ending failure loop.

During the recession and “financial crisis” of 2008, unemployment soared, and for a couple of years, many folks who were inclined to feel like failures could not see any opportunities for employment or money. At that same time, I knew of a handyman who was quite poor and had no formal education, no savings, lived in a lower income rental, and had a family to feed. During that same crisis, he went door to door in my mother’s neighborhood asking for work to do odd jobs. He was willing to fix anything, or to trim trees, or mow lawns. In his mind, every home was an “opportunity”. And he found plenty of people who had work to give him. The law worked for him because his inner world was hopeful, confident in himself,  and open to receiving.

This is the nature of the Law of Attraction. When we believe success is possible, then it becomes a reality. Ideas pop into our head, as they must have with this handyman. The Law of Attraction matches our inner world to the world of possibilities outside.

By creating our positive inner reality, we are transmitting our future potential to the Universe around us. In the Law of Attraction, this is called “like attracts like”.

When the Law Fails to Reflect a Positive Mindset

Sometimes, even a positive mindset can fail to attract what we want. Here is another principal you need to know.

Simply believing in your dreams won’t manifest them. The belief will manifest the opportunities, if you’re open to seeing them, but the law can’t do the work for you. Achieving a dream goal requires your cooperation through action. You must be willing to take the action required to unlock the opportunities presented. When guides and helpers show up, you have to be curious and consider their suggestions, even if the suggestions only move you an inch forward.

Recall the example of the handyman above. He had to get into his car, drive several miles to a neighborhood where folks lived who could pay for his services. Even though his car was beat-up and his neighborhood was poor, he had an inner belief that the folks in the neighborhood with more expensive homes would give him work. But he had to get out of his house and do the work. He could not sit on his couch and hope that a check would arrive in the mail, or that his phone would ring from past customers. He had to get himself in front of those people.

You must do what you can right now, with what you have. The handyman brought whatever tools he had, and he did what he could for that one day. He probably made agreements with some owners to come back the next day to do more work when he had more time and perhaps different tools. But that one day, he did what he could with what he already had.

The Law of Attraction cannot do your work for you, but it will connect you with ideas and openings.

Trust in the Process

Many people are not able to manifest because they can’t see “how” things will happen. They have an intense need to know all the steps before they are willing to begin to dream or believe. The truth about manifesting dreams is that you can’t know “how”. The path to a dream will take twists and turns that you cannot predict right now. It’s uncharted territory for you. You are going to need helpers and guides on your path, and they will show up in exactly the order needed at exactly the right time. Circumstances, people, and timing will come together in a way that is in harmony with what you’re transmitting.  Even the headlights of a car can only shine about 20 feet onto the road ahead, yet we are still able to reach our destination.

Do what you can right now with what you already have, and then keep an eye out for the next step. Trust in this process.

Have Patience and Let The Law of Attraction Work

We all want what we want, right now! But sometimes the process to manifest what we want may take longer than we would like. Perhaps your dream partner is still in another relationship right now, or your dream job will be at a company that is still forming. The right buyer for your house may not be out looking until next summer. There is a lot you cannot possibly know about the future of your dream and how it is manifesting. So, build it internally, and then be patient.

Set your intentions by being very clear about what you want.  Believe in yourself by using your affirmations, visualizations, and meditation. Trust in the Universe, and continue to explore all opportunities that show up, big or small.

Now let the Law of Attraction do the work. There is nothing more for you to do. Let the Universe connect the dots, draw the helpers and guides to you, and present the open doors for you to walk through.

Check In With Yourself

From time to time, check in with yourself to notice what your inner world is reflecting. Are you being in alignment with what you want to attract? Are you being patient and allowing the Universe to do the heavy lifting?  And are you being open to guides, helpers, and opportunities? Are you getting up off the couch to investigate the ideas, people, and chances that pop up? Keep your inner world in harmony with your vision, and keep your vision alive. Let the Law of Attraction do the rest.